What does the groom's parents usually do for the wedding? i.e. flowers, cake?

My son is getting married next May '08. So far her parents haven't helped at all. We are in MO and she is in Utah. Long distance love.

What does the groom's parents usually do for the wedding? i.e. flowers, cake?
Traditionally, the groom's parents pay for the rehearsal dinner, boutonnieres and corsages for immediate family members, and the groom's cake. They also pay for their own wedding attire, travel and lodgings, and gift to the couple.





Today, these traditions are not strictly adhered to as expenses are shared by those best able to pay. The groom's parents might volunteer to also pay for cetain aspects of the wedding, such as the flowers or beverages, or split the cost of the reception.





If the groom's parents guest list grows beyond the budget set by the couple or bride's parents, splitting reception costs can be a reasonable solution.
Reply:Well, traditionally, according to etiquette the groom and/or groom's family pays for the following:


*The engagement ring %26amp; her wedding ring


*The groom's tux


*The father of the groom's tux


*The mother of the groom's apparel %26amp; accessories


*The honeymoon


*The gifts for the men in the wedding party


*The pastor or officiant's fee


*The marriage license fee


*The rehearsal dinner


*The following flowers:


*Bride's bouquets


*All corsages


*All boutennieres





The bride, her family, or the couple themselves pay for everything else.





If there are issues relating to who is paying for what you should nip this in the bud quick! You don't want surprises to the tune of thousands of dollars! Sit down with the couple, or webcam conference, or speaker phone, or whatever with both of them to discuss it. If you feel better about it, you could offer a certain amount of money to them, instead of specifying which things you want to pay for; then they could spend it any way they wanted.
Reply:USUALLY the grooms parents dress tastefully, show up on time for the wedding and are polite and enthusiastic about the wedding. that is all.





i believe the miss manners books have the very best take on wedding etiquette. if you read the series you would be quite versed in your duties and the duties of the brides family, which, traditionally, include paying and hosting the entire wedding and reception.





this, though, doesnt sound traditional to me. is the bride going to have to put this on by herself and will be lucky if her parents even attend? it is perfectly ok if you and your husband wish to write or phone the brides parents and introduce yourselves and ask them what their thoughts are on the wedding of your children.





in some areas, it has become tradition for the grooms family to pay and host the rehearsal dinner before the wedding. in other parts of the country some parents of the groom agree to pay for the alcohol at the reception. these are by no means traditions or socially mandated costs. but if as parents of the groom if you want to pay for something, in my part of the country it seems most pay for the 2 above items.
Reply:First off Congratulations on your son's wedding. I'm getting married in August. As for what the groom's parents usually do, I have seen groom's parents pay for the rehearsal dinner, and the brides wedding band, I know at my cousin's wedding the groom's parents paid for their honeymoon too. That seems like a lot, umm... I have heard of them paying for the brides bouquet too. It can be a whole lot of things and there are a ton of sites that have ideas listed for the groom's parents.In my wedding my fiance has two sets of parents, His real mom and step dad, whom he grew up with, but they refused to pay for anything, because they didn't feel their son deserved it, and his real dad and step mom are actually stepping in and being the parents, they offered to pay for the rehearsal dinner. So anything will help, BUT depending on your budget don't push yourself. It's truly the thought that counts. I'll post a couple sites up.





Honestly what I did was go to google.com and typed in wedding ettiquette or who pays for what in a wedding. Which ever you feel you want to type in go ahead, it'll bring up plenty of information that will hopefully help you out. Once again congratulations and good luck in helping with the planning process!
Reply:It really depends on the families. My fiance's parents aren't paying for a thing but they're not exactly the greatest family. It's frustrating for me but I'm so happy that my father has really stepped in to help us. He keeps telling me not to worry about any of it, that $$ will come and go but the memories last a lifetime. Being anal retentive when it comes to finances, I'm still pulling it off extremely cheap but I wish his parents were helping with something.
Reply:These days, more and more couples are paying for their own weddings. Sometimes parents pitch in some if they can and want.


However, if the two of you families didn't get together with the couple and have a meeting about this last year, it's WAY too late to be complaining.


Your son should be shouldering it along with his fiance, not you.


Now you just smile and be polite.
Reply:The groom's parents reproduced and had a son who is now the groom in the wedding. The bride's parents did the same to have the girl that is now the bride.





These days the bride %26amp; groom can pay for their own wedding and if anyone wants to help out, thats great, but it shouldn't be expected.
Reply:it used to be tradition that the grooms parents paid for the cake and flowers. but not anymore.. now a days the actual bride and groom are expected to pay for their own wedding, and if either's parents decide to help that is great but they are not expected to.
Reply:Do whatever you feel comfortable with. Traditionally, the groom's parents pay for the rehearsal dinner.





My fiance's parents payed for half the engagement party and for the invitations. It was very nice of them to help us out!
Reply:The grooms parents pay for the honeymoon, the bride's for the wedding, it is tradition. HOWEVER if you are unable to do so offer to pay for the cake.
Reply:The grooms parents do nothing. The groom's sister helps the bride with everything, along with the bride's mom, sisters and other girls in her family.
Reply:Usually, just the rehearsal dinner and whatever the groom needs....Bride's parents pay for everything(most of the time..), and this omitted when the couple pays for themselves.
Reply:In MN, the groom's parents host the groom's Dinner. period. unless the bride's family has no money, well then you do what you can.
Reply:usually the brides parents pay for everything and the grooms parents pay for a fancy dinner after the wedding rehearsal, but times have changed and there are no more rules I guess
Reply:Isn't it a little late to be planning?


My (groom) parents and her parents split the reception cost down the middle. My wife and I paid for the church, flowers, limo, and honeymoon.
Reply:Groom's parents traditionally pay for the rehearsal dinner, not much else. You can help out with anything you can afford if you wish.
Reply:The rehearsal dinner is pretty much it I do believe. My sister just got married last summer %26amp; that's how they did it. That's what the wedding coordinator suggested.
Reply:Show up eat drink have a good time, no I think they just help out with the residence of the newly married couple.
Reply:I think the only traditional thing they are responsible for is the rehearsal dinner, but there's really no set rules anymore. Help out with whatever you want/can
Reply:They usually pay for the rehearsal dinner.
Reply:I've never been married. . It should be 50/50 between the parents, shouldn't it?
Reply:Rehearsal dinner, bar tab, or whatever they want...
Reply:yes I do think the grooms parants should buy the flowers
Reply:champaine cake ect
Reply:THEY PAY, THEY PAY, THEY PAY





UNLESS YOU DECIDE TO TALK TO THEM.





KEEP IN MIND, SOCIETIES ARE CHANGING; SO, IT NOT UNUSAL FOR THE BRIDE'S PARENTS TO CONTRIBUTE
Reply:throw the son a bachelor party with coked-up prostitues