Sunday, November 15, 2009

Who should buy the flowers for the wedding, the brides family or the grooms?

My nephew is getting married and he's fiances mother told his mom that she is suppose to pay for the bridal bouquet and the flowers for the wedding party and the mom's, is this true or is she just telling her that because she's spent more than she can afford?

Who should buy the flowers for the wedding, the brides family or the grooms?
This is the tradition, I just find it add that the MOB would assume that the grooms side would pitch in. This is why the bride and groom need to talk to their parents about who is contributing what at the beginning. Nothing should ever be assumed by anyone!!
Reply:it is true.. the bride pays for the wedding.. groom picks up for the rehearsal dinner and feeds out of town guests~~but it should be split down the middle..
Reply:Long ago, grooms family paid for flowers, rehearsal dinner,


and booze.


But times change.


Pay only what you can afford to pay for.
Reply:Yes, the groom is supposed to pay for the bride's bouquet, if they have agreed to doing the cost of the wedding with the traditional arrangements.





However, if they have already agreed to split the cost of the reception and other items that are "traditionally" the responsibility of the parents of the bride, then they should sit down and talk again about who is paying for what.
Reply:There is no "supposed to" about it. These days, wedding expenses are paid by whoever volunteers to pay. However, there IS a rule against using the occasion of a wedding to bully and browbeat people into taking on expenses they'd prefer to avoid.
Reply:Rules vary from culture to culture so without knowing what culture it is difficult to determine. When my Brother in law married his wife (she is Vietnamese and we are Jewish) it was very tricky working out the particulars. It has to come down to mutual agreement and not expectations. Good Luck!
Reply:It is true that the groom pays for the bride, himself, the groommen the dads but the bride pays bridesmaids and the church! I think Niki got thumbs down because if you google it you find her complte answer and she has no link to were hers came from which is againt the rules!
Reply:Niki - the "traditional" answer is not necessarily the "correct" answer. These days no one follows those rules, so it's not correct for our times. I realize you state that it's tradition, but I just don't believe in the spirit of your answer.





If the parents of the bride %26amp; groom want to pitch in, that's great, but it's not a requirement. And no one follows the "this side has to pays for this" and "that side has to pay for that". The parents pay for what they want to; everything else is up to the bride %26amp; groom.





Please don't use tradition to try to force one side to pay for something.
Reply:Etiquette for weddings





Groom and family are responsible for the rehearsal dinner.


Groom is responsible for wedding bands, tux, and buying your bouquet.





Bride and family are responsible for all the rest. However in some cases, the expense has been shared, but the grooms parents will have to offer to share that responsibility, and you don't ask, that is rude.





We recently had a relative who got married, due to the fact that he had worked with government officials, those officials were on the guest list, so needless to say, his family picked up most of the tab for the wedding, because his family had to have these political people there.





and I am pretty sure that he has to buy his mothers corsage
Reply:That may be tradition but today the bride and groom split the cost since they are financing most of the wedding themselves.
Reply:The bride and groom should pay for their own.


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